Being Attractive
The further into this weightloss regimen I get the more I come to realise my shallow depths. At one time not so long ago I wouldn’t buy, much less read, a celebrity gossip magazine. Being media-trained as I am, I do not agree with the motivation behind such publications. However, the other day in the gym, in a bid to pass the time during a cardio workout I picked up someones copy of Closer. (Don’t judge me, the only other option was the Daily Mail that the gym supplies!)
I do like my popular culture and will stand up for it at many turns but celebrity magazines just seem to be such tripe. How thin so-and-so is! How fat she’s gotten! What are they wearing?! Look who was papped coming out of a club at 2am - gasp! horror!
I always stood up for myself at university and said I didn’t buy into the sexy beautiful model type women in the magazines and I truely didn’t think I did. But looking through Closer, getting more and more engrossed in the models/actors/celebrities for being celebrities I found myself thinking, ‘one day…’ and the irony is I don’t even want to look like some of those models, I just want to look like me. A thinner, more successful me.
This then led me in my reverie to whether being happy and healthy can lead to success in other areas of my life. There are certain areas in my life that I want to develop but in order to do that I need for others, strangers, to give me a chance. I feel a lot of my lack of success in this is down to my weight. Whether we like it or not, people judge others on first appearances. There have been plenty of CEO’s and managers on the telly saying they would not employ a fat person - precisely because as an employee they are representing the company/your brand. So while I understand that being slim will not solve all my problems, getting my weight in control will definitely give me opportunities to further my personal development that are simply not open to me as a fat person.
People who think sex is not weaved into everything we say, think, do, watch, listen to etc are in denial. - Brothers & Sisters
I was watching Brothers & Sister’s on TV last night and this quote stood out at me. It is paraphrased as I can’t remember it word for word but essentially that is it. I think they may have a point. Sex sells, sexy in particular sells. Whether we like it or not the media are adapt at making sure it is in our living rooms, that society set’s it’s standards by it.
Like me giving in to the magazines in the gym and comparing myself to unobtainable model figures, I think there comes a point where we have to give in to it and admit that we place our self worth on how we look. Maybe it is not the act of that which is so wrong so much as the high standards we are unable to reach.
‘Being attractive’ is just two words after all, it is up to us to determine how we judge that in ourselves.
