Health Link: Looking to gain muscle? Buy Mixed Up Mess (In My Head)
By Groovybabe • Nov 29th, 2007 • Category: celebrations, clubbing, dating, diet management, food, health, insomnia, life, mental health, self esteemI am sorry I have been AWOL for a few days. I have been going through some emotional turmoil and I wasn’t following my diet much less bothering with mine or other people’s blogs with any sense of commitment.
My sleep, due to the emotional turmoil, has been a complete mess too. As a result I have been eating crap (mostly bread) and not eating meals and stuff. Day and night. I was really worried about getting on the scales this morning as it was the first time in 3 days but doing so has saved me. I have lost 3lbs. REALLY not sure how that one happened! I have been GORGING. And I havent been to the gym in over a week. I guess my motabolism is just in much better shape these days. (I have the flu/cold as a reason for not having been to the gym.)
When we think about losing a significant amount of weight, we do think of the problems we may encounter. These, we assume, are largely our own psychological issues. But to anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight, or if you know someone who has, do you find personal relationships change with the weightloss?
The dynamics of some of my relationships are changing. Some for the better, others not so much. I really do not want to go into details here but I guess losing weight, gaining in confidence and becoming more attractive to the opposite sex can bring its own problems. How we deal with them is paramount, I guess. I lost my social skills to a large extent when I became morbidly obese and am trying to re-learn them but it is a long and sometimes debilitating journey. For example, looking better in the mirror than I feel in my head is weird. You have the new found confidence from obviously looking better and yet your head-space is still screaming ‘you fat, good for nothing, waste of space - go hide now!’ Trying to bring the two together, while trying to convince those around you that you are still ultimately the same person you was six months ago is a skill I am yet to learn.
Groovybabe is 14.11 stones today and feeling in control.
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I have had the same problem I have been heavy for awhile & the minute I told a few people who I thought would be happy for me instead I get the opposite its not like I am going to be a size 10 or anything I feel like maybe they think that they rather be my friend when I am heavy as opposed to being my friend while I am trying to get healthy I guess it hurt because I figured they would be happy for me big or small I am still me right my outside is just a little smaller but inside I am still Rae…
To Rae above: Outside you’ll still be Rae too! Just a smaller one.
GB: I think your friend in question is probably really proud of you but since you’re taking some of the attention now, she may need to just get used to it. It was probably comfortable to have her “fat friend” around because she got all the attention but now she has to learn to share because her fat friend is gone and her fab friend is here to stay!
I’m glad you’re seeing the diff now C. It’s so good you can finally see the diff. Confidence tastes so yummy, eh?
well, i am still a snail at 30lbs in, but scouting around it seems that this is common to the metamorphosis you are undergoing.
not very helpful advice….but you aren’t alone is what i am driving at.
take it day by day and dont make drastic decisions without careful thought.
some people are only in our lives for a season……though it can be difficult to see those seasons end.
Rae - Thanks for finding and commenting on my site. I don’t think it is a negative reaction on purpose in this case, more sub conscious. But I think maybe I was being a little harsh, shes always been really supportive.
Betz - I think you’re absolutely right. I mean it is a huge adjustment for me to make, losing this much weight, so it is bound to be for those around me too.
Its all good in groovy city.
Lady T - it is all good. this friend is in my life for good, she is not going anywhere in a hurry, even if she wants to lol. I love her to bits.
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